The national rates of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) took an understandable dip during the COVID-19 pandemic, both due to a lack of available care and a lack of human interaction. But they’re back in full force. In 2021, there were over 1.6 million recorded cases of chlamydia, and rates of gonorrhea and syphilis were also up year over year, according to the Center for Disease Control. Life has, after all, returned to normal. 

Regular STD testing is one of the best ways to avoid being an unknown carrier and spreading infection between sexual partners, and because men can be carriers of infections like HPV without developing cervical cancer, it’s even more important. But trips to the doctor’s office for a quick penis swab are not high on folks’ summer “must-do” list. Thankfully, reliable at-home STD testing kits exist and make the process easy and private. 

At-home STD testing kits have been around since 2004, but the technology has become not only easier to use but more accurate thanks to IWANTTHEKIT, a line of tests developed by a team at Johns Hopkins University. Since then, at-home testing has only gotten more popular as more trustworthy brands have emerged and the quality of tests has improved leaving less room for common user errors. The COVID-19 pandemic demanded folks manage more of their health from home than ever before, and the convenience of accurate at-home testing became the norm. 

The price of an at-home STD test ranges widely from $10-$500, on average, with some organizations accepting health insurance, as well as HSAs and FSAs. To identify which tests are trustworthy and worth not just a purchase, but relying on for critical health information, SPY asked experts for some key attributes to look for in an at-home test.

What the Experts Say

When it comes to at-home testing, personal accountability is of the utmost importance, said Dr. Carol Queen staff sexologist at sex toy retailer Good Vibes. “For years the concern about at-home testing — especially for the most stigmatized STIs, [or sexually transmitted infections], such as HIV/AIDS — involved the loss of follow-up appointments and counseling that presumably would be an issue if people weren’t visiting clinics or their own doctors,” she said. 

In fact, Queen said that many STD testing companies provide telehealth support that address many of the issues above, but it’s up to folks to actually use them. Taking the test at home is one thing, but taking the necessary action steps after a positive test is crucial for minimizing the spread of disease.  “Self-testing folks might fail to realize some of the issues with an STI if they’re positive (like risks during pregnancy). They might not get the right pharmaceutical support, they might not realize in advance how a positive result will impact them emotionally,” Queen said. Any STD test should have a significant level of accreditation to ensure the tests are reliable and not harmful. After all, you’re buying this tool to inform you about critical health information. 

Dr. Justin Houman, a urologist and men’s health specialist at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center said both FDA (U.S Food and Drug Administration) approval and CLIA (Clinical Laboratory Improvement Amendments) certification are crucial to ensuring a test is safe and trustworthy. The former indicates safety and effectiveness, and the latter is solely focused on standards for laboratory testing. 

Dr. Houman also said that anyone with a known exposure to an STI, a symptomatic infection, or someone who has many sexual partners simultaneously should consult with a doctor. That said, at-home testing with reputable brands is a great general practice for mitigating risk and maintaining sexual wellness. 

BEST OVERALL

Let'sGetChecked

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Let’sGetChecked takes the top spot in this roundup for their quick turnaround time on results, discreet packaging, available treatment consultations, and CLIA-approved, CAP-accredited lab tests. FDA approval is critical for a reliable STD test according to Houman, and all of LetsGetChecked tests are approved. 

They offer three testing kits at different price points: Simple 2 ($99), Standard 5 ($149), and Complete 8 ($249). Simple 2 covers chlamydia and gonorrhea and offers treatment options for chlamydia. Standard 5 includes chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomoniasis, HIV, and syphilis. The Complete 8 test covers everything the previous two do as well as gardnerella, mycoplasma and ureaplasma as well.

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BEST FOR COVERING ALL THE BASES

myLabbox

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Why It’s Great: myLabBox offers the full gambit of testing options. The 14-panel test screens for all of the most common STDs including to HIV I & II, Hep C, Herpes, Syphilis, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and more. No stone is left unturned. 

There’s More: Among the 19 varieties of tests, myLabBox offers a Love Box couples’ kit, a PrEP Box, as well as a Boomer Box with tests designated for the needs of older adults including Hepatitis C, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and HIV.

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BEST FOR THE DATA-CONSCIOUS

Everlywell STD Tests

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Why It’s Great: All data provided to Everlywell is stored on ClearData — a HIPAA-compliant platform.

There’s More: Everlywell’s male STD test offers personalized test results, helping users to start conversations with healthcare providers. Even better, it comes with access to telehealth consultations with physicians.

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BEST FOR ENM LIFESTYLES

ShamelessCare

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Why It’s Great: ShamelessCare boasts judgment-free healthcare for the Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) community, with three types of packages depending on one’s lifestyle needs. 

There’s More: Made as a preventative measure for those engaging in sexual activity with multiple partners, ShamlessCare comes recommended by Bella Luna and Jase B, hosts of the 4OurPlay Swinger Podcast. A major standout for them is the brand’s customer service, important given that the chances of user error with self-administered tests is high. “With one of the tests, Jase actually didn’t put enough blood onto [the test] so it couldn’t be read correctly. They sent another testing kit so we were able to redo it and send it back out again.”

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BEST FOR ACCREDITED TESTS

Nurx

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Why It’s Great: Nurx offers FDA-approved medication treatments in addition to testing, as well as unlimited messaging for one year with licensed providers. This stands out from other options because it has the FDA’s stamp of approval.

There’s More: While most of the tests on this list feature various CAP and CLIA accreditations, the Nurx home test kits also feature testing components that are all FDA-cleared for use.

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BEST FOR ONE-TIME PURCHASES

CVS Health At Home STI & HIV Test Kit

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Why It’s Great: One of the major pros of CVS kits is how accessible and affordable they are. The CVS Health At Home STI & HIV Test Kit is also available for sale online, if there isn’t a store nearby. Once a collection is done, the kit is mailed back to CLIA-certified labs and users can expect results within a week. Customers can also use HSA/FSA funds if available, which can help reduce costs if $100 is too steep.

There’s More: This single-use test uses blood and urine samples to screen users for HIV, Syphilis, Hepatits C, HSV-2, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Trichomoniasis.

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BEST FOR MSM/QUEER COMMUNITIES

TakeMeHome

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Why It’s Great: TakeMeHome is completely free, with local or state health departments covering the costs of the test. Even better, their website features how-to videos on how to administer anal and oral swabs, urine samples, and OraQuick (a self-administered over-the-counter oral rapid test for HIV).

There’s More: While TakeMeHome is not yet available in all 50 states, the company is working in tandem with Building Healthy Online Communities: a platform bringing public health professionals work with app builders together to support the sexual health of men who have sex with men (MSM), queer, and trans communities.

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Male birth control methods are in very short supply. Men get to choose between vasectomies and condoms, a semi-permanent surgery or a thin veil of stretchy plastic. Nearly 34 million men used condoms as protection in 2020, a modest figure compared to the roughly 500,000 men who get vasectomies every year, but not nearly as high as it should be given that there are roughly 65 million men in the U.S. between the ages of 18-50 years old. A report on condom use in the National Journal of Medicine touted dozens of common reasons for dodging condom usage including inconvenience, religious practice, the loss of an erection, awkwardness, and — the kicker — the assumption that birth control is the partner’s responsibility. 

Condoms are easier to use and cheaper to procure than some of the most common forms of female birth control — IUDs, synthetic hormone pills, arm implants — and they’re not permanent. The ROI of family planning for less than a dollar a pop is clearly high, but men should do their research before slapping on any random brand found at the drugstore. Not all provide sexually transmitted infection (STI) protection equally, and it’s wise to choose carefully before buying in bulk for the nightstand. 

What the Experts Say About Condom Usage and Fit

Latex condoms tend to be the norm, but a little over 4% of the world’s population is allergic to latex, so it’s good to know about the alternates. Polyisoprene, a synthetic rubber, is a bit thicker than latex but very durable and stretchy. It shouldn’t be paired with oil-based lube, and will generate slightly less friction than latex or au natural penetration. Polyurethane condoms are a plastic-based alternative to latex and much thinner than polyisoprene. These give wearers a closer, hotter sensation and can be paired with any type of lubricant. Lambskin condoms are a form of birth control but don’t prevent STIs, since sperm can’t penetrate their weave but fluids that may spread STIs can. 

Condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs when they’re used properly and have the right fit.  According to sex educator Bobby Box, “A major reason people don’t like using condoms is because they find the fit uncomfortable. This makes sense, considering the average condom is 7.2 inches to 7.8 inches long, and the average penis is nearly two inches shorter. Because of that, some brands are being proactive and offering a plethora of sizes so that everyone can find a condom that fits comfortably.” 

Condoms have come a long way from their inception in 3000 B.C. No longer are animal organs or linen sheaths the only option. In fact, condoms are continuing to advance every day, with new brands addressing issues like fit, friction, sensitivity, movement, and allergies. SPY, alongside resident sexual health and pleasure experts, have picked a handful worth a wrap. 

BEST OVERALL

Lelo HEX Original

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LELO Hex Original condoms take the top spot in this roundup because they’re essentially the total package for your package. From user experience to affordability down to manufacturing, these condoms offer a slew of bonuses. They’re the preferred condom brand for porn star Yinnie Dedom, who told Spy, “They didn’t ever break on me, which is awesome because I f*** pretty hard and condoms be breakin’.” You heard it here first. 

Lelo HEX boasts six key features, which helped secure its top position among SPY editors. These include an ultra-thin material alongside durability, a no-slip wrapper that makes it easier to unwrap quickly, and a neutral scent. 

The Lelo HEX Original condoms cater to the widest array of condom concerns: fit, texture, ease of application, thickness, scent and taste, and effectiveness. Lelo’s products also make a double appearance in this roundup, and for good reason. This brand has addressed all the doubts, fears, and hesitation attached to condom use and created a sexy, effective product safe for all wearers.

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BEST FOR A LARGE PACKAGE

Lelo HEX Respect XL

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Made For: The big boys who are looking for options other than Magnum.

Why It’s Great: Like its original counterpart, this sheath boasts an ultra-thin feel and no slippage, without too tight a fit.

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BEST FOR LATEX ALLERGIES

Durex Avanti Bare Real Feel

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Made For: Safe sex, sans latex.

Why It’s Great: This polyisoprene condom offers a skin-like latex alternative at a great price.

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BEST FOR A SNUG FIT

Caution Wear Iron Grip Snug Fitting Lubricated Latex Condoms

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Made For: Smaller packages or those looking to size down for tightness

Why It’s Great: This latex layer isn’t going anywhere. Just grab some lube.

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BEST FOR STD PROTECTION

myONE Perfect Fit Condoms

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Made For: Tailor-made protection and no-slip grip.

Why It’s Great: This one comes recommended by Box, who said “myONE Perfect Fit Condoms offer 60 different sizes and an online measuring system so you can find your perfect fit.”

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BEST FOR A BARELY-THERE FEEL

Trojan Sensitivity BareSkin Latex Condoms

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Made For: Those craving deep closeness.

Why It’s Great: 40% thinner than the average Trojan condom, this condom offers protection and connection.

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BEST FOR TEXTURED RIDES

Durex Extra Sensitive Ribbed

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Made For: Thin sensations and ribbed vibrations.

Why It’s Great: This option offers both ribbed and dotted features and comes pre-lubricated, so get ready for a fun ride.

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BEST FOR CONVENIENT COVERAGE

Trojan ENZ

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Made For: Reliable protection on-the-go

Why It’s Great: This affordable option can be found at almost any convenience store. With a reservoir tip, no frills, and pre-lubricated latex, Trojan ENZ makes using a condom very easy.

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Male birth control is the uncracked nut of the medical world. There are condoms and vasectomies, of course, but one feels too permanent and the other too disposable. The methods in development consist of gels, pills, and injectables. But none of them have become mainstream. 

The latest idea, which has taken hold on TikTok and become the subject of thousands of videos with hundreds of thousands of views, claims that heating up the testicles will act as a form of contraception. Two products have promised to do just that: Coso, a pod for the testicles that’s being clinically researched in Germany, and the Testicuzzi, a $70 very real, not-at-all-fake plastic product that looks like a jacuzzi for balls and that influencers are touting as an alternative. As far as how well they work, that’s up in the air. 

Coso is an ultrasound-based, reversible form of male contraception being developed in Germany by scientist Rebecca Weiss. It won the 2021 James Dyson Award for product innovation and has been generating a lot of buzz online around the concept of temperature as a form of male contraception. It’s also sparked outrage in women who deal with intense side effects inflicted by female birth control, and it’s caused confusion among everyone else who comes across it. Does it actually work? Wouldn’t sitting in a hot bath be cheaper? 

The answer is not definitive — at least not yet. Coso is still awaiting human trials, and likely won’t be available for a while, and the Testicuzzi is far from establishing itself as a legitimate way to family plan. Is this safe? Dr. Justin Houman, a Urologist and Men’s Reproductive Specialist at UCLA, noted a sizable lack of research and recommended men proceed with caution. 

“It’s essential to approach [Coso and Testicuzzi] with caution and consider the available scientific evidence,” said Houman. “There’s no way of truly, accurately predicting if you have no sperm present in the ejaculate and if it is causing any irreversible damage to the testicular tissue in charge of sperm production.”

Burning one’s nether regions seems like a bad plan, but does heat affect men’s procreative abilities? Yes, and there’s proof.

“The concept of using heat to reduce sperm production and potentially serve as a form of male contraception is not new. It’s based on the understanding that high temperatures can negatively affect sperm production and function,” said Houman. “Excessive heat exposure, such as frequent use of saunas or hot tubs, wearing tight underwear or pants, or using laptop computers on the lap for extended periods, has been associated with reduced sperm count, motility, and morphology.”

Houman said that the effects usually fade once testicles are back at their normal temperature. 

A quick gonad spa appointment probably doesn’t result in reliable contraception meant for long-term use. But there’s a chance it could feel nice. 

That this product has gone viral highlights a glaring need for better contraceptive options for men that don’t feel ridiculous. The fact that men are constantly producing sperm, and women only need to defend one egg per month from fertilization, makes male birth control harder to produce. But steeping the goods like a tea bag doesn’t seem like the pharmaceutical pot o’ gold we’re looking for. 

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The Testicuzzi II is built for a spa experience. It has a massaging headrest, is USB-rechargeable and has wireless control so the whole body can find a comfortable position. They explicitly clarify on their website that this is “not a gag gift” and is a “real product,” so that’s always a great sign. 

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When it comes to sex, there are few things that aren’t subjective. Everything from the shape of one’s body to the toys, positions, and sex playlists one prefers can change based on the individual(s) and the mood. One thing that runs true across the board: lube makes sex better. 

Like a strong cocktail at a social gathering or piping hot oil ripping through an engine,  it makes things easier. Stuff runs smoothly. The trains run on time, so to speak. For anyone looking to expand their sexual portfolio with new partners, experiment with new positions or make self-pleasure that much better, lube is critical. 

Finding the right lube, however, is more complicated. While some may be accustomed to a simple hock of spit right into the palm before getting down to business, that’s likely to do more harm than good. Human mouths are filled with bacteria and spit can be a vehicle for illnesses and STIs. Anyone who’s ever tried shower sex knows that water is the opposite of a lubricator, and don’t even consider using lotion of any kind. 

The best lubes for men are often made from one of three materials: silicone, water, or oil. Silicone lubes are preferred for anal play largely because they last long and don’t require reapplication. However, unlike water-based lubes, silicone lubes cannot be used with silicone sex toys, as they damage the toy and break down the material. Another downside is that they tend to leave more of a mess than water-based options. Both water-based lubes and silicone-based lubes are compatible with latex condoms, but oil-based lubricants, however, are not.

Lube can take a deeply uncomfortable sexual experience and make it a mediocre, or even great one. The risk of chafing and tearing around the genitals significantly goes down when introducing a lubricant. Considering just how sensitive a penis can be — about 4,000 nerve endings on the head alone — protecting a member from chafing should be a top priority. What’s even better is lube inexpensive and very easy to buy. 

What the Experts Say

For professional-grade recommendations, SPY turned to someone who has done the leg work as far as product testing. For both anal and vaginal sex, Porn actor Yinnie DeDom shared a few stand-out lubricants from his career, and that being mindful about ingredients — both for himself and his partners —has always been a top priority. 

“[My favorite] vaginal [lube] is Divine 9 because it uses carrageenan as a binding against so it’s pH balanced and also stays wetter for longer than most lubes that use glycerin,” said DeDom. “It’s a fan-favorite among my partners that have used it. As for anal, coconut oil! Stays incredibly wet + coconut is anti-microbial so it reduces the risk of anything dripping down and throwing someone’s vaginal health off.”

What’s the ROI?

What’s the price tag of a perfect orgasm? It feels almost not worth saying that the ROI is high on personal lubricant, so long as one invests in the ideal one for them and their body. Don’t go purchasing 32 ounces of Astroglide from Amazon if you’re not sure how it will affect you or your partners. Start with small sizes and buy in bulk after you’ve chosen a favorite. 

Also, don’t spend a lot of money on lube. Anything over $50 is unnecessary, and anything over $100 is a scam. Personal lubricant is a Class II medical device and is regulated by the Food and Drug Administration in the United States. This means that all lubricant options available on the market are body safe and effective to use, and most people don’t need to worry about avoiding toxic ingredients. 

BEST OVERALL

#LubeLife Water-Based Lubricant

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This lube has taken the #1 spot in other SPY’s other lube roundups and for good reason. It’s a Best Seller in Amazon’s Personal Lubricant category, with an average of 4.5 stars and over 131,000 reviews. Not only is it widely loved by Amazon reviewers for its ingredients and efficacy, but it’s an affordable product for anyone looking to try out lube without investing in a more expensive option right off the bat.

Highlights from various endorsements include its gel-like viscosity, longevity during sex and masturbation, inoffensive scent, and inoffensive flavor. The skin won’t be left feeling sticky, and there’s no need to worry about permanent stains on bedding, the couch, the rug — wherever — since the ingredients are formulated to wash out. To top it all off, #LubeLife lubricant is naturally free of parabens, glycerin, silicone, gluten, and hormones, making it body- and celiac-safe, as well as condom- and toy-friendly. Its natural qualities make it a good option for vaginal play, while its long-lasting viscosity also makes it a great choice for anal play.

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BEST FOR SILICONE STANS

Swiss Navy

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Why It Stands Out: Since 1999, this lube has been a tried and true product for solo, vaginal, and anal play. It’s made with pH balancing ingredients and the vitamin E makes for a smooth, moisturizing experience that isn’t sticky. 

Key Ingredients: Vitamin E and high-grade, body-safe silicone

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BEST FOR WATER-BASED DEVOTEES

Sassy by Sliquid

Why It Stands Out: An expert recommendation from Bobby Box, certified sex educator and brand ambassador for b-vibe. Box said, “If I choose to go water-based, I prefer a lube with a thicker, gel-like consistency to help reduce friction, like Sassy by Sliquid.”

Made For: Those who want silicone feel without the silicone. This is a thick, water-based lube with a viscous consistency, which gives it a silicone-like feel with less mess.

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BEST FOR VAGINAL PLAY

Divine 9

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Why It Stands Out: Divine 9 is a lubricant recommended by DeDom. He noted that the ingredients keep it pH balanced without sacrificing wetness and it’s a favorite amongst her partners who have tried it. 

Made For: Vaginal play, and those looking for natural ingredients.

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BEST FOR ANAL PLAY

Uberlube

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Why It Stands Out: UberLube also comes recommended by Box, who touts it as a top-shelf product with long-lasting benefits. Box shared with Spy, “I like UberLube. It’s pricey, but it’s worth it. The lube is infused with vitamin E so it leaves the skin soft and not sticky.”

Made For: Those interested in anal play, skincare enthusiasts and those willing to spend a bit more money

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BEST FOR KEEPING IT ORGANIC

Nutiva Unrefined Coconut Oil

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Why It Stands Out: Another recommendation from DeDom, coconut oil is a convenient and multi-purpose option to have in the lubricant arsenal. It goes on smoothly and can be used for moisturizing the skin. It’s also antimicrobial, so it helps decrease bacteria migration between genitals that can cause irritation and infection. 

Made For: Naturalists, those interested in vaginal play and getting freaky in the kitchen.

Take Note: If using coconut oil for personal lubricant, it should be unrefined coconut oil.

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Gun Oil

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Why It Stands Out: Gun Oil comes professionally recommended by sex worker, writer, and entrepreneur Addis Fouche, as a preferred anal lubricant. This silicone option has a bit more steep price tag at $25.99, but with ingredients like aloe vera and vitamin E, the long-term skin benefits make it worth it.

Made For: Anal, skincare enthusiasts, masculine design aesthetics

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Astroglide

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Why It Stands Out: This affordable option has been around since 1977 after being developed by NASA Aerospace Chemist, Daniel X. Ray. Astroglide was created as a high-quality lubricant and moisturizer for NASA, intended to stand up to the drying conditions of the space shuttle program. Now, it’s a budget-friendly option for horny folks everywhere. 

Made For: Those who like the classics and who are not looking to break the bank

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Guys masturbate and many if not most go at it dry. As more frequent and furious masturbaters know, this can cause problems: Friction can cause chafing. While it’s possible to mitigate this somewhat with a bottle of Jergen’s, that’s a middle schooler’s game. The best bet is to use lube specifically made – without the harsh chemicals found in many soaps and shampoos – for the rigorous demands of onanism.

In the broadest possible terms, lubricants are designed to minimize friction and heat. This is true in a car and it’s true in regards to one’s own personal gearshaft. This is why the best lubes for masturbation feel oily. That slipperiness can be offputting, but it allows both silicone and water-based lubes to protect delicate penis skin. Not only is skin on the penis incredibly sensitive with up to 4,000 nerve endings in the head alone, but it’s incredibly thin. Little or lack of lube will only aid in chafing – and nobody wants to deal with penis chafing.

What Experts Say

There’s a debate in lube world. And it’s not easily resolved. Silicone lubes are long-lasting, but messy. And some water-based lubes don’t have the runtime they should; they become tacky way more quickly than anticipated. Ask multiple experts which is best and you’ll get different answers.

“The best go-to lube to consider for the novice is water-based,” says lube brand JO’s Regional Manager Timothy Ferencz. “It can be used safely for masturbation, vaginal, anal, and oral sex, so it’s a good product to start with. With that said, a penis wants what a penis wants. Every BODY is different. Try different formulas. Try different brands. Pick a product with the texture and glide you prefer and go from there.”

Tyler Aldridge, Senior Director of Product & Operations at sex toy brand maude, disagrees. He recommends silicone lube because “a little goes a long way” and it works in the shower.

But the two men agree on one thing: It’s not lube if it isn’t FDA licensed. Most moisturizers, glides and serums are not FDA-cleared so it’s worth double-checking before getting down to business.

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Out of every single personal lubricant on Amazon, #LufeLife has the best rating — and for good reason. With a luxuriously smooth, water-based consistency and a non-sticky texture, this is a lubricant that beckons the hand from across the room. Although this lubricant doesn’t come with a pump for easy application, the drippy consistency leaks well without needing to squeeze the bottle and get it all sticky.
For just $10, this lubricant is long-lasting for playtime over and over again. It’s toy-friendly and condom compatible for those planning on going the extra mile past casual hand-on-cock masturbation. Using natural ingredients for a healthy whack, this lubricant is made for fear-free time when lathering on. Clean-up is also effortless. No stains, no problems.

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Why It Stands Out: Natural, organic, aloe-based, pH-balanced, latex-friendly, American-made, hydrating — the list goes on. For those looking for a trustworthy lube that can pretty much do it all, this is one to highly consider.
Made For: Conscious shoppers that prioritize the importance of what goes into the products they buy. Yes, even if it’s “just” a lube. Remember, this is going on the penis. We don’t wanna fuck negatively with the penis.
Is It Slippery?: Yes, it is. The consistency is aloe and water-based, offering up an extremely slippery glide for masturbation sessions on the bed, on the couch, in the shower, in the kitchen — wherever dudes get their rocks off.
Hot Take: It’s so slippery that the bottle will 100% accumulate a consistently oily exterior that will easily slip out of any pair of hands. Thank God there is a pump.

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BEST SILICONE LUBE

Swiss Navy Premium Silicone-Based Lubricant

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Why It Stands Out: While not everyone will enjoy the tackier consistency and stain-ridden fear silicone lube has to offer, this stuff is the real fucking deal. It’s long-lasting for serious edging sessions and perfect for using with any toy or condom.
Made For: TBH, edgers. For those who want a greased-up dick with little or no need to reapply after the first try, this is the lube to buy.
Is It Slippery?: Yes. Very.
Hot Take: Though it will stain the couch if uncareful, it’ll probably be worth the orgasm.

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BEST WATER-BASED RUNTIME

JO H2O Lubricant

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Why It Stands Out: Reapplying water-based lube is kind of its downfall. Sure, it feels great at the beginning, but reapplication is mandatory. Though that is still the case with JO H2O, through testing, it’s been noticed that reapplication is much less frequent.
Made For: Yeah, reapplication sucks, but it has to happen with water-based lubes. This is for water-based lube lovers who want to reapply less. So, like, most guys. And most guys down for playing with toys or condoms (it’s safe for those, too.)
Is It Slippery?: It’s very slippery and long-lasting. A true double-whammy.
Hot Take: This lubricant has its name in the game. JO? Come on. Stellar.

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BEST ANAL LUBE

LYNK Water-Based Lubricant

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Why It Stands Out: Well, it’s anal lube. It’s not built for the penis. That should stand out enough.
Made For: Anal lovers. This is a water-based lube specifically made for safe use during anal insertion. That goes as far as intercourse and as close as at-home anal masturbation.
Is It Slippery?: Yes, it is slippery, but during testing, it can be noted that it isn’t as slippery as lubes specifically made for the penis. This one does have a tackier consistency that is a little unique in terms of water-based lubes. It’s, in a way, heavier. That said, it’s still excellent to use and long-lasting.
Hot Take: This can be used on any average cock. Don’t worry.

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Gun Oil Silicone Based Lubricant

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Why It Stands Out: This unscented, gel-like, silicone-based lubricant is called “Gun Oil” for a reason. It, quite literally, lasts forever. One bottle will cost the average buyer about $26, but purchasers will likely have it for years. It lasts and lasts and lasts.
Made For: The kind of guy that likes a bang for his buck. And, one that feels fucking excellent. 
Is It Slippery?: It is fucking slippery, yes. For the pea-sized amount one needs to use, this is a slip that defies science. It’s perfect for using in the shower due to it being waterproof, but it is a little hard to get off given that 1.) it’s silicone-based and 2.) it lasts so damn long.
Hot Take: This is a little bit like Dr. Bronner’s liquid Castille soap of lube.

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BEST CREAM

Hello Cake Slo-Lotion

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Why It Stands Out: This is a newbie in the wild world of lubricant. And, it’s a cream. Back to the good ‘ole days of stealing mom’s Nivea!
Made For: Seriously, this is a cream. It’s got a different feel to it than most lubricants that is reminiscent of masturbation sessions with, well, creams and lotions. Though it’s certainly more on the slippery side for ultimate convenience, it’s got that #TBT, old-school vibe to it that’ll bring back the feel of an O from ‘08.
Is It Slippery?: Yes, it’s slippery, but it is more creamy. That said, the majority of other lubes here will feel more slippery. That could just be placebo talking, but through testing, that’s what was discovered.
Hot Take: Leave lotion for the body parts it is supposed to lather on. This is the newbie eradicating masturbation via hand lotion once and for all.

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There will likely come a time in life when the bed, the kitchen counter and the shower just don’t capture the same sexual excitement they used to. That’s nothing to feel uneasy about, as familiarity and repetition have their limits. Where some people feel despair, others, including the editors here at SPY, see an opportunity. Clearly, the best way to spice up a sex life that’s become too predictable is to add some of the best sex furniture.

The best sex furniture ranges from small pillows to complete couches, with one major aim in mind — delivering the support needed for better sexual experiences for a healthier sex life. There are instances where it’s not possible to hold a partner up for long enough to make a position enjoyable or times when a flat, regular bed just won’t suffice. That’s where the best sex furniture comes in. It’s the missing link, and often an inspiration to, positions and experiences that may have previously only been fantasies.

Sexologist and Lovers in-house “sexpert” Marla Renee Stewart shares, “The purpose of sex furniture is twofold: 1) to offer something different to have sex on that is not a bed, but just as comfortable, and 2) to blend in with the rest of your furniture so that people don’t realize that it is sex furniture.”

“Not only can it help people spice up their sex life, it allows them the opportunity to have space to think about doing something different and invoke creativity. Sex furniture can be everything from wedge pillows to benches to curving chairs and you can use them all while being with a lover or by being solo,” said Stewart.

When it comes to choosing the right sex furniture, factors like desire and personal preference are key. What’s great is just the act of reading about each piece will likely stir some inspiration for how to integrate it into current sexual exploits. Sex furniture options include, but aren’t limited to:

What The Experts Say

Edgar Mogilnickij, designer and owner of sex furniture brand BDSM Architecture, notes “Sex furniture helps with various positions which could be difficult to maintain just in a bed. For example, tantric sofa curves could help with better hip angles, while a bench could help you stay comfortably on all fours for a prolonged time. Some furniture can even immobilize a partner in certain positions, adding a little kink to their sex life.”

Like many of the pieces he designs, it’s not immediately obvious that this furniture is built for sex, making it a discreetly kinky addition to any home.

“Many of the pieces of furniture or accessories are multi-use and can be used in multiple ways. After all, what could be better than a kinky multi-functional piece of furniture that would last for years and look great in your home?”

When building his pieces, Mogilnickij considers several factors, including comfort, safety, functionality, and aesthetics. He also prioritizes materials that are pleasant to the touch and easy to clean, recommending that buyers opt for the same.

BEST OVERALL

Liberator Esse Chaise

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The Liberator Esse Chaise is an elegant addition to any home. It was designed with Kama Sutra-inspired positions in mind. The unique shape allows users to effortlessly move through various positions while remaining comfortable, stable and mobile. This ergonomically-designed chaise is also made in the USA, includes a removable, washable cover and comes in nine different colors, ensuring there’s one to match any home decor. Furthermore, it’s supplied with a removable headrest and sports a moisture-proof inner layer to prevent any liquids from getting too far into the core of the piece.

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BEST BUDGET

NaEnson Sex Toys Wedge Pillow

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Unbelievably, this piece of sex furniture that’s massively popular with users costs just over $15? Well, it’s true. The NaEnson Sex Toys Wedge Pillow is an easy and budget-friendly way to spice things up in the bedroom. The portable and easy-to-store design includes a double valve and sports a soft surface on the main faces for greater comfort during use. Plus, while it’s simple in design, this home sex furniture addition makes changing up positions easy, removing potential lifting issues and allowing users to indulge in some arrangements which just wouldn’t be possible otherwise.

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BEST INFLATABLE FOR BDSM

Dark Magic Position Pillow With Cuffs

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Get kinky in comfort with the Dark Magic Position Pillow, complete with detachable sex handcuffs. Most of the affordable inflatable wedges out there are upholstered, which can get dirty quickly. Instead, opt for this handsome leather alternative, which is much easier to wipe down. Complete with cuffs and a rounded pillow at the bottom of the wedge, this multifunctional wedge is durable enough to support the weight of two vigorously moving people. From spanking to deeper penetration, the possibilities are endless.

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BEST STOOL

Bondage Boutique Sex Position Enhancer Chair

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This chair with a 330 lb capacity might look no-frills in terms of design, but it’s the best sex furniture for those looking to tuck something under the bed. Lovehoney sex educator Javay Frye-Nekrasova shares, “This chair is great for added stability during sex, with a partner, or alone. You can use it to make being on top easier. If your partner needs to be raised higher, put a sex position wedge underneath them. If you are using the chair alone, you can put a suction dildo on the ground and bounce on top of it with the support of the chair.” With a quadruple-layered elastic, the surface is extra bouncy, relieving fatigued thighs and reducing muscle strain.

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BEST FOR BDSM

Liberator Black Label Wedge Ramp Combo

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A kinky twist on Liberator’s regular wedge and ramp combo, this one comes with high-quality restraints and a blindfold. If BDSM isn’t in the repertoire but switching up positions while giving tired hips and back a break is, this set is a great way to do so. Customers report that the velvet feel is comfortable against bare skin. A great accessory set to help make bondage experiences comfier and more exhilarating.

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Dame Pillo

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This alternative to foam wedges from Dame is truly firm, almost to a fault, but it definitely won’t cause any sinking, offering great lower back support. It also feels great on sensitive skin thanks to a 100% cotton outer shell that’s machine washable. With a discreet look that’ll fit in with other pillows on the bed, it can provide some seriously mind-blowing sensations once that “just-right” angle is discovered.

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BEST FOR MAGIC WAND

Wanda Magic Wand Toy Mount

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This toy mount makes a great gift or couples toy for any fans of the Magic Wand. It provides stimulating vibes on one end and acts as a position enhancer like the Liberator wedge included in this list. With tons of position and penetration possibilities, nobody will get tired of this unique accessory anytime soon. It even features a window to access the control panel so that users can change speed and intensity with ease.

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BEST FOR WET PLAY

Tom of Finland Water Sports Sheet Set

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No matter what kind of wet play happens on it, this Tom of Finland Water Sports Sheet will keep surfaces safe. Made for getting wet and wild while protecting floors, fabrics and bedding from the mess of playtime, this sheet is made from soft black vinyl and has inflatable sides as an added shield from splashing, whether it’s from chocolate syrup, lube or golden showers. Lightweight and portable, it’s also the ideal x-rated travel accessory.

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BEST DOOR KIT

Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit

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In order to avoid answering questions about what’s attached to the ceiling mount in the middle of the living room, the Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit is a fantastic choice. Instead of permanent fixtures, this smart kit uses any existing doors as an anchor point for hanging. This results in a handy aid for upright fun which is capable of accommodating weights up to 325 pounds. Additionally, the cushioned neoprene and sturdy stirrups provide extra support and comfort when things really get heated.

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Liberator Bonbon Sex Toy Mount

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Even just by itself, the Liberator Bonbon Sex Toy Mount is a versatile piece of furniture that can be used to support or heighten body parts for a more cohesive experience. That’s even before we mention the rounded side, which can be used to assist a back-and-forth rocking motion when faced down. Add to this a mid-pillow opening that can house sex toys, like vibrators or dildos, for an extra kink in sexual exploits and it’s easy to see why this toy mount is a popular sex furniture option.

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BEST WEDGE

Liberator Sex Position Wedge

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Users who have never used an accessory like this will probably be surprised at what a difference introducing a wedge-shaped pillow can make for sexual adventures. The Liberator Sex Position Wedge truly opens the door to slightly different positions which can make a huge difference enjoyment-wise. It’s available in either blue or pink and includes a removable cover that is easily washed if anyone gets over-excited.

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BEST TOY MOUNT FOR HER

Liberator Wing Sex Toy Mount

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The Liberator Wing Sex Toy Mount is a piece of sex furniture that’s helpful for providing support during sex and mounting a range of toys. The pillow is not overpowering or clumsy in size, but it does exactly what it needs to and includes a pre-cut opening for mounting dildos and vibrators in an erect position for all kinds of play. This versatility makes this a solid choice for both couples and singles. Additionally, it comes in multiple colors, allowing buyers to match sex furniture to home decor.

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BEST SEX MACHINE

The Cowgirl Premium Sex Machine

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For partners in a monogamous relationship who want to spice it up with a third, consider the Cowgirl premium sex machine. This thing is basically the Ferrari of sex machines, with multiple attachments and a clitoral stimulator attachment for bumping and grinding. Complete with 10 vibration patterns and made with heavy-duty metal and PU, this machine is easy to wipe down and provides leg-shaking pleasure for anyone who hops on it. Also perfect for voyeurs who want to watch their partner be taken on the ride of their life.

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BEST SPREADER

Liberator Talea Spreader Bar

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While the Liberator Talea Spreader Bar’s status as a furniture piece may be debatable, what’s not up for debate is how much it can liven up bedroom romps. This bar may seem overly simple, but restraining a partner on the bed or floor can bring a whole new level of fun to previously boring furniture pieces. The spreader includes fully adjustable cuffs and can be used on legs, arms or both to provide a kinky thrill. Additionally, the 30-inch cushioned bar can act as an aid for greater support for positions suggested in the supplied illustrations.

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BEST FLESHLIGHT HOLDER

Fleshlight Top Dog

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Owners of a Fleshlight device who would enjoy a little more freedom for hands, will love the Fleshlight Top Dog. This piece of sex furniture has been designed with Fleshlight products in mind, resulting in a uniquely shaped holder to accommodate all kinds of play, including a range of doggy-style positions. The Top Dog is made in the USA and features a durable yet sturdy inner foam core, which offers greater comfort. Plus, this piece can be easily cleaned using warm water and soap.

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BEST SWING

Fetish Fantasy Spinning Fantasy Swing

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Outside of the mildly advanced installation aspect, adding the Fetish Fantasy Spinning Fantasy Swing to a sex furniture setup can be life-changing. Once the technique has been mastered, these versatile sex aids take away any potential strain of difficult positions and let partners focus solely on enjoyment. This swing is supplied with a torsion spring which delivers a weightless experience. It also boasts the ability to rotate 360 degrees for a fully accommodating experience. The nylon straps are also fully adjustable, and large padded straps wrap around the rear end and back for greater comfort during use.

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The fear of an accidental pregnancy or STI is the primary motivator for most couples opting to wear a condom, but the truth is the right one not only enhances protection but pleasure as well. Men can last longer because of the dulled sensations and women can relax knowing they’ve taken a step towards those few minutes not resulting in a life-altering mistake.

And while there are other alternative prophylaxis options for women, like the pill or an IUD, there aren’t similar options for men. Until male birth control becomes widely available, the best and most responsible way to reduce the risk of unwanted pregnancies and the spread of STIs is a condom (that is, until “the snip” comes into play).

Of course, not all condoms are created equal. In fact, there are a ton of options to consider when shopping for condoms. Some men prefer ultra-thin condoms with a natural feel, while others prefer thicker or desensitizing condoms to help them last longer. For truly satisfying sexual experiences, one simple fact is crucial to remember: there are two people in the bedroom. Many condoms are specifically designed to enhance her pleasure.

Benefits of Choosing Condoms for Her

Condoms are a nearly-foolproof safeguard against pregnancy and the spread of STIs, but they’re also a cheaper and less invasive form of birth control for women.

Condoms reduce the chances of contracting HPV and cervical cancer and prevent unwanted pregnancies without the need for an inserted device or daily dose of hormones. Given today’s political climate, condoms for her aren’t just about pleasure — they’re about protection against undesired outcomes where the options for solutions have become increasingly limited.

In terms of condoms for her satisfaction, textured condoms are the opposite of a gimmick. Condoms ribbed for her pleasure add some much-desired friction and clitoral stimulation, which is ideal for women that can’t orgasm from penetrative sex alone. The same goes for extra lubricated condoms — the wetter the play session, the more pleasurable sensations for her.

BEST OVERALL

Trojan Her Pleasure Sensations Condom

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Trojan shocks these condoms to test their reliability, so there’s an extra assurance they shouldn’t break halfway through coitus. They’ve got ribs and contours designed to enhance female pleasure and there’s extra lubrication which makes everybody happier.

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BEST SUBSCRIPTION BOX

P.S. Condoms

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Crystal clear, 100% vegan, and shock-treated for durability (no, really), these condoms from P.S. Goodtimes are a new entry into the safe sex game. Why are they the best condoms for her pleasure, too? The super-thin material creates a more natural feel during the act, which creates pleasurable sensations for everyone involved. Available as a one-time purchase for $19 for a pack of 12, or $16.15 as a subscription delivered in a discrete box. No more awkwardly swinging by the gas station for a last-minute pickup.

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BEST LATEX ALTERNATIVE

Lifestyles SKYN Selection Condoms

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Latex allergy? Then it’s definitely worth trying these Lifestyles SKYN Selection Condoms. They are the best-selling non-latex option on Amazon, and each box includes a mix of 4 designs: the popular Orginal, the textured Excitation, the ultra-thin Elite, and the Elite Extra Lube. Each SKYN condom is electronically tested and made from SKYNFEEL, a non-latex material that is both soft and strong to reduce the risk of STIs while ensuring a comfortable experience during sex.

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SEXOLOGIST-RECOMMENDED

Lifestyles Skyn Extra Lubricated Non-Latex Condom: 36-Pack of Condoms

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Sexologist Marla Renee Stewart tells SPY, “I highly recommend the Skyn condoms with extra lube (because you can never have too much lube) because they are polyisoprene. A lot of people are allergic to latex, which most condoms are made from, so this is a perfect alternative. In addition to that, they are also very thin and have a nice and soft feel to them.”

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BEST FOR LONG-LASTING SEX

Durex Prolong Delay Textured Latex Condoms

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A lover ready to go the distance needs a condom that can keep up, nobody likes a worn-out condom drying up and wrinkling halfway through. The addition of 5% benzocaine is formulated to delay ejaculation for longer and more sensual sessions. One buyer claims it doubles his duration, commenting, “Both you and your partner still feel pleasure while your buddy Durex keeps you in line.”

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BEST THIN CONDOM

Okamoto 004 Condoms

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People describe Okamoto’s 004 ultra-thin condoms as being so thin, it almost feels like nothing is there. A few reviewers have noted they had to double-check check the condom was still on to make sure it was still there, a glowing product recommendation for condom users everywhere.
The best-feeling condoms for her either enhance her pleasure through texture or are so discreet she doesn’t feel any obstruction to intimacy. These condoms are also scentless, so there’s no pesky fake scent distracting from the action.

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BEST FOR HER HEALTH

LOLA Ultra Thin Latex Condoms

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Sometimes, condoms can throw off a lady’s natural pH and the health of her genitals. These gynecologist-approved condoms for her from the all-natural brand LOLA are made with a medical-grade lubricant, cornstarch powder, and zero chemicals. They also offer an ultra-sensitive feel during penetration. The product is also designed to offer a super close skin-to-skin experience with no harmful side effects.

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EXTRA LUBRICATED

K-Y Me & You Extra Lubricated Ultra Thin Latex Condoms

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Sometimes, a smooth-sailing bedroom experience requires a little extra. These extra-lubed-up and ultra-thin condoms are made to help shorten the ramp-up to sexual activity and mimic the feeling of natural wetness. Forget fumbling with messy bottles or packets of lube — these KY condoms have more than enough lubricant built right in. If one or more partners struggle with dryness or a couple is trying for a quickie where there isn’t a ton of time for foreplay, then these condoms will come in handy.

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BEST TEXTURED PICK

Kimono MicroThin Ribbed + SensiDot Condoms

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Kimono’s MicroThin condoms have a barely-there sensation and are ribbed and contoured with sensation-enhancing dots to enhance a woman’s experience. The textured combination of dots and ribbing is unique in the condom game, and the reliable construction gives women even more reason to relax and enjoy.

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MOST INNOVATIVE

LELO HEX Original

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The average condom hasn’t changed much in the last 70 years, and that bothered the innovators at LELO, one of SPY’s favorite sex toy brand and leading brands in the pleasure industry. So, they invented HEX, a super-strong, super-thin condom that relies on a graphene-inspired structure. By using a pattern of hexagons, the company was able to create a condom that’s resistant to breakage yet is one of the thinnest products on the market. The interior of the condom has a textured pattern to prevent slippage and therefore ramp up the pleasure for both partners.

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BEST FOR ORAL SEX

GLYDE Premium Flavored Condoms

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While flavored condoms may sound disgusting to some, there are others for whom they enhance the experience and satisfy a real kink. This pack from GLYDE comes with fruity tastes like strawberry, blueberry, wildberry and licorice — and are made with non-toxic chemicals so oral sex becomes even more on the table. 

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BEST FOR ONE-NIGHT STANDS

Night Light Glow in the Dark Condom

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“A glow-in-the-dark condom comes in handy when you’re on the night scene and hooking up with people and would like to ensure that they have a condom on. There are too many times that people hook up only to find that the condom is not where it’s supposed to be. It’s so much easier to navigate in the dark if you know your protection shows up nice and clear! “

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Playboy has evolved a bit from what you remember. Starting off as a magazine and lifestyle brand, Playboy’s focus was on entertaining heterosexual men with provocative photography of women. The company has recentered itself with its new slogan “Pleasure for All.” How is it achieving that? By letting men be sex objects too, of course!

The leisure lifestyle company has just announced a new collection of velour and intimates designed for men. Both lines seem to be emphasizing quality and comfort as the velour collection of tracksuits, hoodies, jackets, shorts, and pants are made with a stunning and supper soft… well… velour.

Want to feel your sexiest self? The intimates collection is saying, “men can feel sexy too,” with its options of jockstraps, harnesses, thongs, and lace boxer briefs. Fellas, you’ve got good cheeks and it’s time to show them off in the bedroom. The Men’s Broken Hearts Jock Strap and Harness set is perfect to let out your inner rebel and pleasure seeker. It’s also made from premium microfiber and has a contour pouch that lifts and supports your own pouch.

In addition to the new collection of velour and intimates for men, Playboy has announced a new collaboration with Drake’s OVO. This is the lifestyle brand’s second collaboration with October’s Very Own with this lineup containing exclusive items such as varsity jackets, rugbys, hoodies, caps, and tees.

We’ve pulled out a few items from each collection below, but be sure to check out the full lineup from the Playboy x OVO collection, the men’s intimates collection, and the men’s velour collection.

Playboy x OVO Femlin T-Shirt, Black

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Men's Essentials Modal Brief, Black

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For many people, there’s nothing more thrilling than a little rough play (consensually, of course). Whether you’re into dominance, submission, or some bondage play, BDSM aficionados need a little extra oomph outside of vanilla sex to get them going. And even if vanilla is your favorite flavor, you may be curious about exploring the pleasure (and pain) offered by BDSM.

Now, for those of you asking, “What is BDSM?” It’s simply another sexual interest and isn’t unhealthy, although many of us have been conditioned to see it as wrong. Due to society’s taboo view of BDSM, it can be tough for many people to educate themselves and learn the ins and outs of this power play kink. The acronym stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadomasochism, and Masochism. While sadists, aka doms, enjoy delivering pain, masochists, aka subs, get pleasure from receiving pain. When one meets another, it’s a match made in heaven. BDSM has been around for centuries, referenced in texts like the Kama Sutra and Marquis de Sade works.

Perhaps the snap of a whip excites you, or you’d like to explore the dynamics of doms and subs. Whether you’re a newbie or looking to level up in the world of kink, there are endless things to learn about BDSM, power dynamics, and the best BDSM sex toys. If you are a beginner, rules, safe words, and consent are the first things you should learn about. Many misconceptions surround this fetish, so educating yourself on everything from safe words to after-play and creating a safe space for all parties involved is key. Then, it’s time for some spicy fun.

When done respectfully and responsibly, this kink can be incredibly empowering and create a new intimacy between partners. Products like BDSM starter kits can help provide some variety for beginners, but it can be tough to find high-quality, long-lasting products that feel good and are designed by the best in the industry.

We’ve got your back thanks to the help of some very wise experts — after all, who knows more about BDSM than professional dominatrixes themselves? These pros specialize in all things subs, doms, and pain. After speaking with experienced pro-dommes, we’ve collected some of the best BDSM sex toys for beginners and seasoned pros alike. Please note that the experts personally recommended not every product in the shopping guide below we spoke to, and we’ve included some beginner-friendly toys that a seasoned dominatrix wouldn’t be caught dead with.

When exploring BDSM play, there’s a spectrum from lighter activities to more extreme ones, which should be approached carefully. Sex expert Angie Rowntree, founder and director of award-winning ethical porn site sssh.com, shares with SPY, “Blindfolding a partner with a scarf, or tying their hands together — that is kink. Tickling them with a feather is kink, but so are the more elaborate forms like rope bondage, suspension, flogging, etc., which should never be attempted without proper training.”

Below, we’ll share some helpful information for beginners and couples interested in submission, domination, and BDSM sex toys. Education and consent are always important when embarking upon a new sexual journey, especially with BDSM.

The Best Places To Buy BDSM Sex Toys Online

Knowing where to start can be intimidating — especially if you’re unsure how to use items like electro sex toys.

We’ve shared a selection of the best BDSM sex toys for beginners below and some expert picks for more experienced players. We pulled our selection from various brands and online sex toy retailers. There are tons of places to buy sex toys online, but according to the kinky folks we consulted, here are a few of the top destinations for BDSM gear in particular:

Best for Experts – Stockroom: Many experts we spoke to recommended shopping with this kinky BDSM sex toy store. Many of the BDSM sex toys at Stockroom may be a bit advanced for beginners, but our experts believe this store has the highest-quality BDSM gear.

Best for Beginners – Lovehoney: Lovehoney is our favorite place to buy sex toys online, and they have a considerable section of kinky BDSM toys and bondage tools. Lovehoney has great customer service, discrete shipping, and affordable prices.

Best for BDSM Furniture – Liberator: Liberator makes some of the finest sex furniture in the world, and the company also has a line of restraints and bondage gear.

Best for Custom Gear – Etsy: Members of the BDSM community are often independent-minded folks who prefer to wear a one-of-a-kind harness than something anyone can buy on Amazon. Etsy is actually a great place to go for custom fetish collars, leather restraints, and other kinky items.

Best Sex-Positive Fun – Babeland: We love Babeland, a feminist, sex-positive sex shop with physical locations and an online store. Babeland has tons of educational resources for BDSM beginners and a huge selection of toys for folks of all orientations and body types.

Best Small Business – Unbound Babes: We love this modern, kinky online sex toy shop with a forward-looking ethos and high-quality toys for sexual exploration.

We’ve curated a range of BDSM sex toys suitable for all experience levels, including the century-old classics that never fail at straddling the line between pleasure and pain. Explore your erotic fantasies with our crowd-pleasing picks of the best BDSM sex toys for beginners and pros alike.

The Best BDSM Sex Toys

1. Lovense Hush Butt Plug

BEST OVERALL

Mistress Damiana Chi, a high-profile domme recently in the Discovery+ series House of Hammer, shares her two favorite picks for the best BDSM toys.

“The Lovense Hush 2 plug comes in 4 different sizes for different size “sex holes.” I love this vibrating plug and use it for many scenarios. Two fun ones are when my sissymaid or domestic slave is serving me around my dungeon or home, and I need to summon them; all I have to do is open up the app on my phone and send a jolting vibrating pattern, and my slave comes scurrying! I also like to use it when we are out at a restaurant, and I send a strong vibration pattern right when the server comes to our table.”

This Bluetooth buttplug also comes in several sizes, making it highly customizable.

Buy: Lovense Hush 2 1.0” Butt Plug $89.00

2. Stockroom Short Riding Crop

FOR BEGINNERS

Dee Severe, an ex-pro domme of many years who now directs fetish flicks at Severe Sex Films, shares her personal treasure box of the best BDSM toys to add to your wicked little collection. First up is this riding crop from the Stockroom.

“BDSM can be one of the most exciting, bonding things ever if you do it right.  And you can really seriously injure your partner if you do it wrong.  So, two important notes about BDSM toys: 1.  Don’t buy cheap crap that can fail at the worst moment.  Invest in quality toys.  2. Do not use advanced toys like single-tail whips and canes until you have had some training. Lifestyle BDSM organizations and dungeons often hold classes. At the very least, watch instructional videos and practice a lot on pillows, etc., before you hit a human. The crop is a great toy for beginners because it’s easy to aim and control.“

3. Babeland Premium Leather Cuffs

FOR BEGINNERS

Severe’s second suggestion is a pair of leather cuffs, which sounds more sumptuous than metal handcuffs and safer for BDSM beginners than ropes.

“If you are a beginner, please don’t use rope until you have taken a bondage class or were an Eagle Scout in your youth. If you tie someone up the wrong way or leave them tied up for too long, you can cause permanent nerve damage.  Cuffs work just as well and are much safer for a novice.  This set for hands and feet will do the trick.”

4. Bondage Boutique Red Hot Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit (6 Piece)

EDITOR’S PICK

This affordable BDSM kit from Lovehoney is the perfect option for beginners ready for a kinky adventure. The 6-piece Bondage Boutique set comes with bed restraints, hand and leg cuffs, a blindfold and gag, and a flogger. Because it’s so affordable, you can easily add a few more goodies to your shopping cart for even more fun.

5. ElectraStim EM60-M Flick Electrosex Stimulator Multipack Set

BEST ELECTRO TOY

Looking for something a little more shocking? Consider getting into electro-play, but using the best BDSM toys in terms of quality is key. Chi comments, “My favorite electro-play unit is ElectraStim. I have tried other high-end electro-play brands, and this one “feels” the best to subs. They say that some of the settings feel erotic yet can still be painful, depending on what settings I choose. Some of my favorite attachments to use with it are ElectraStim Prestige ElectraLoops Adjustable Cock Rings, which I also use on balls, and Depth Charge Flexible Electro Probe for anal play.”

6. Stock Room Cow Leather Interchangeable Flogger Head

MOST VERSATILE

This is one of the best BDSM toys for those looking to get into flogging or whipping, according to pro domme Madyson de la Rough.

“I recommend this cow leather head, which works with the interchangeable handle below. “This cow leather interchangeable flogger by unique kink is an amazing piece as you can mix & match the handles to finger flogger grip or classic handle in a few different sizes so that you can create a custom toy for your needs.” This head is made from thick, heavy leather, often made for motorcycle chaps.  They also sell deer and bison leather heads for different sensations.

While the leather head is sold separately at sites like Stock Room, Unique Kink lets you choose your handle along with the head. The classic handle comes in multiple sizes, as Maydson de la Rough mentioned, which allows for a more personalized experience based on your needs. A shock-absorbent polymer handle provides a comfortable grip, while a series of unique ball bearings allow it to swivel for a more accurate, graceful motion while avoiding tangles. It’s also compatible with whips if you decide to level up.

7. Unbound Babes BDSM Basics Set

EDITOR’S PICK

For a versatile kit that looks as good as it feels, check out this BDSM Basics kit from Unbound Babes, which also makes a great gift. Included is their most popular adjustable wrist restraint set, dubbed Orion, which comes with a strap that can be used for over-the-door action. It can also be used on ankles. You also get a roll of attractive PCV bondage tape that only sticks to itself, so skin and hair are safe from damage. It restrains effectively but is easy to remove, making it perfect for all levels.

We’ve spoken to the babes behind Unbound Babes, and it’s a sex-positive and gender-neutral sex toy retailer that supports people of all kinds.

8. Stock Room Finger Flogger

EXPERT PICK

Mistress Mia also recommends using a flogger paired with a finger flogger extension, which can provide better control for newbies: “Made of soft suede with a leather handle, these finger floggers give a lot of control and are great for beginners due to the simplicity of the design.” She recommends these high-quality items from Unique Kink, sold by Stockroom LA.

They’re completely interchangeable, like the oversized handle we mentioned above. This lets you try new attachments without buying a brand new flogger. Another unexpected benefit of finger floggers is that they’re versatile for anyone with joint issues or wrist fatigue and are more portable than the bigger handles.

9. NS Novelties Bondage Couture Flogger

ALSO CONSIDER

If you want to explore impact play with a partner, consider this stylish blue vegan flogger, which can produce anything from a gliding tickle to a potent sting. If you’re looking to experiment with different pain levels, consider this flogger, which has a length that allows the user to practice aimming and targeting. As one user puts it, “Not so modest that it’s wimpy or embarrassing, but not at all so flashy as to be intimidating. Easy to wield, and provides a variety of stingy to thuddy effects.”

10. Stockroom Round Leather Paddle 

EXPERT PICK

Another alternative to a riding crop regarding impact play is a good old fashion spanking, according to Dee. First, master it with the hand, then graduate to this paddle. Savage guides newbies with this advice:

“Once you have mastered correct aim with your hand (hitting the round, fleshy part of the butt, NOT tailbone or any area above the butt that could hit kidneys or other vital organs), you can progress to a paddle. Like a crop, easy to aim and control.  Stay away from wood paddles till you really know what you’re doing; they have a more intense impact. Take it easy at first and always communicate with your partner.”

11. Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler

BEST SENSORY TOY

Not quite ready to graduate to the world of impact play? In that case, consider sensory play, which allows you to experiment with sensation and textures before graduating to more serious pain.

Savage comments, “Sensory deprivation can be a very sensual way for couples to play. Essentially, you put your partner in bondage and blindfold them, then apply pleasure and pain from different sources. In addition to DIY items such as ice cubes, this feather tickler, and prickly pinwheel could be really fun.” Start with the tickler for a gentle intro before graduating to the delicious jolt of the pinwheel.

12. Lovehoney Colorplay Color-Changing Silicone Nipple Suckers

BEST FOR NIPPLE PLAY

An alternative to cold metal nipple clamps, these silicone nipple suckers are the ultimate sensation play add-on to foreplay or intercourse. They’re as soft as velvet and change color as your playtime gets hotter, leaving nipples extra sensitive, plump, and erect. Just be sure to line the rim of the sucker with water-based lube for the best suction. It’s perfect for anyone who finds their nipples a serious erogenous zone and likes to get them sucked or stimulated. After applying, hold in place for added pressure, squeezing and releasing without lifting the sucker.

13. Premium Bed Restraint System

EDITOR’S PICK

When shopping for the best BDSM sex toys, under-the-bed restraints are a common recommendation. These bondage toys are often included in BDSM kits for beginners, but if you’re looking for a more sophisticated option, try these premium restraints, available at Babeland.

14. Quickie Cuffs Silicone Restraints

BEST ALL PURPOSE CUFFS

Although they make a perfect intro to cuffs for beginners, these comfy, buckle-free Quickie handcuffs made from silicone are sturdy with a velvety finish. They’re a hypoallergenic alternative to anyone who gets skin reactions from metal or other materials and a waterproof option that will never get rusty. A noiseless choice that’s also an airport-safe travel accessory, making your journey through security as discreet as possible. Unlike clip-based ones, you can put these through the wringer multiple times, and they’ll always survive, letting you stay in position for longer.

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15. Bondage Boutique Soft Bondage Rope 10 Meter

BEST FOR ROPE PLAY 

Shibari is the art of rope bondage, and it originates from Japan. There are many ways to enjoy rope bondage, although it typically enjoys tightly binding a partner somehow. With time, rope bondage aficionados can learn different ways to tie their partner. The person being tied up will love the loss of control, while the one doing the tying will adore dominating. This extra long rope can create full-body restraints and is made of thick, soft cotton to avoid chafing or rope burn.

Please note that properly using BDSM toys like this requires training and practice. You can also check out online rope play courses here.

16. Bondage Boutique Faux Leather Medium Silicone Ball Gag

BEST STARTER GAG

Whether you love gagging or being gagged or want to reduce the noise you make during sex, this stretchy silicone option is your best bet. Complete with faux leather straps, this ball gag is much more comfortable than hard plastic alternatives and can prevent individuals from straining their jaw or experiencing breathing problems. Explore muffled restraint play and silence your sub with this toy, but be aware that it might not be the best for extra small mouths.

17. Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs

BEST SPREADER BAR

Spreader bars are a unique form of bondage play that takes restraint to a new level. Keeping legs or wrists restrained and separated, each of these leather cuffs (complete with padlocks and multiple spare keys) are lined with faux fur for maximum comfort. You can gradually increase the length of the solid metal spreader bar based on your flexibility, and the ankle cuffs can even rotate, allowing for a bit of movement without releasing. Stay comfortable yet restricted with this BDSM essential which can be used for anything from flogging to new penetration angles.

18. NS Novelties Bondage Couture Blindfold

BEST BLINDFOLD

While blindfolds are some of the most readily available kink accessories, there are too many low-quality, flimsy options on the market. This luxury alternative, suitable for all genders, doesn’t slip, unlike cheaper versions and is completely adjustable for all head sizes with its buckle strap. It has a sleek look for a fair price, providing sensory deprivation while making the wearer feel as sexy as possible—an eye-catching submission device made from superior materials.

19. Sportsheets Saffron Leash & Collar

BEST LEASH & COLLAR

Looking to spice up your master and slave roleplay? Integrate wearing this padded collar and leash set in your intimate time. This 55-inch chain leash comes complete with a faux leather handle, and the collar features a ring on the back that allows for connection to other ropes and leashes. Command your sub during playtime or just around the house if this roleplay extends to different aspects of your lifestyle. Users love how comfy the non-chafing collar is, while others found the weight of the chain to be “surprisingly great.”

20. Classic O-Ring Leather BDSM Collar

CUSTOM MADE COLLAR

You might not realize it, but Etsy is one of the best places to buy BDSM toys online, especially if you’re looking for fetish collars. In addition to collars and chokers for kinky fun, you can also find a ton of leather restraints and harnesses. We’ve included one such option below, which comes from an Etsy seller called Daddy’s Leather Shop, so you know it means business.

21. Liberator Wedge & Cuffs Set

BEST BDSM FURNITURE

Liberator is the most popular sex toy furniture brand, and we’ve featured the company’s products in many of our sex toy shopping guides. The classic Liberator Wedge gets an upgrade here with an additional restraint system, which can pin you or your partner’s hands or feet into all sorts of naughty positions. You can also use the ramp to experiment with new positions that explore new sexual depths. Liberator makes the best sex furniture in our experience, and we highly recommend this bundle.

Busting BDSM Stigma

Due to the stigma surrounding BDSM, this kink has been misconstrued by the media, especially in films like 50 Shades of Gray which infer that bondage results from abuse or being “damaged.” Instead, true BDSM is all about creating a safe space and establishing rules. Rowntree adds, “ALWAYS have a safeword ready to stop play immediately if need be — pick something unique that you would not usually use, like ‘pineapple’ or ‘swordfish.’ You can also establish a non-verbal cue.”

Consent, communication, and boundaries are the pillars of BDSM that ensure all parties have a pleasurable experience. Investing in high-quality BDSM gear is equally important.

Here are some criteria to pay attention to when buying the best BDSM sex toys and accessories:

Size: Dimensions are key, especially when using a cock cage or cuffs. Consider investing in adjustable cuffs made from a flexible material, and accessories like cages measure your genitals accordingly.

Comfort: While BDSM is about discomfort to some extent, punishment should still be delivered with comfortable items made with high-quality materials.

Durability: Durable materials are important because you might be doing pretty intense activities during your play session, and sturdy equipment will be key to safely getting through them.

How to Start Your BDSM Journey

There are many different ways to explore the exciting world of BDSM. A popular way to start is sensory deprivation. This can be a blindfold that removes sight, a gag that silences, or cuffs that remove your range of motion. Removing one sense can enhance the others.

In terms of bringing it up with a partner, Rowntree reminds us, “If you’re trying to gauge your partner’s level of interest, go ahead and ask if there is anything kinky they are interested in trying. And when you ask, you need to be open-minded and non-judgmental; nothing shuts down a person faster than feeling judged or shamed.”

While you can start exploring BDSM on porn sites such as sssh.com, Consider taking kink classes or connecting with your local BDSM community. It takes extreme honesty and communication, which can take hard work both in and out of the bedroom.

To learn more, we recommend checking out more educational resources. You can also read books like BDSM 101, a great resource for curious beginners. Think of BDSM 101 as an instruction manual with practical tips for newbies exploring bondage, domination, and submission safely.

BDSM 101, by Rev. Jen

About BDSM Aftercare

Along with communicating well during your fetish sesh, BDSM aftercare best practices are also important, as noted by Lovense.com. Aftercare refers to the relaxation that follows a play session. That might mean cuddles, bathing together, treating injuries from the session with ointment or ice, staying hydrated, or eating your favorite foods. You and your partner can play with customizing aftercare based on the BDSM games you like to engage in — practice makes perfect.

These are the Male Sex Toys That Guys Are Talking About

Done right, sex is disruptive. Whether it’s passionate, athletic, or comforting, but it’s a different place, a foreign country that feels like home. That said, like any destination, it can be a bit dull if you follow the guidebook. Deviations help. Sex restraints help. 

BDSM porn (standing for bondage, discipline or domination, sadism and masochism) is one of the most popular searches on Pornhub, with BDSM-related terms making up for 1.5% of all searches. That might sound small, but given that Pornhub is the fourth most popular website in the world (ahead of even Twitter, Instagram and Amazon), 1.5% is a lot.

Search BDSM on Pornhub and you’ll notice something. Page one isn’t passable without seeing handcuffs or sex restraints in a thumbnail or two. They’re commonly assimilated as one of the best BDSM sex toys likely for that exact reason: familiarity. Sex restraints act as an introduction to a flourishing world of non-vanilla sex. They auto-implement both dominant and submissive characteristics on each partner depending on who is in control of the cuffs.

But, here’s something to remember: porn isn’t real. Porn is made solely for entertainment. That means what you’re gawking over in these videos should be seen sideways. Cuffs and restraints used in these videos might not always make sense for the average player.

“Most of the sets made for BDSM players are either cheap and poorly made, or, ‘authentic’ and therefore really heavy and uncomfortable for the wearer,” says Dr. Vanessa Carlisle, author of the sexy mystery Take Me With You, bemoaning the state of the lack of restraint shown by restraint manufacturers. “For people who are just starting out, I love a good pair of silicone cuffs.”

Silicone cuffs come without any buckles or locks, making them easy to get on and off. Like a lot of sex restraints and cheaper metal handcuffs, silicone cuffs also don’t chafe the skin. That’s perfect for beginners (who might also want to try fabric, bondage tape, or silicone easy cuffs). Tastes diverge from there. Some prefer metal. Some prefer leather.

“Padded leather cuffs with metal buckles are a standard item in any BDSM space, but they can be expensive and do require some specialized cleaning and care,” says Carlisle. “For this reason, I think of them as the next step up from an initial purchase of silicone cuffs or bondage tape.”

Shopping for sex restraints can get interesting. Given the ease of Amazon, it might be the site you find yourself on first to peep a starter selection. But, most cuffs and restraints available on Amazon aren’t necessarily the most quality-made. You’ll have better luck at sex toy sites such as Lovehoney, Adam & Eve and Bellesa which are known for selling reputable sex restraints you don’t have to worry about falling apart. These restraints will start as low as just $15.

Sex restraints and cuffs for more experienced users can be found at online retailers such as Etsy and Stockroom, two spots that offer options made for more serious play. These can cost the average buyer well over $100.

As Carlisle mentioned, where you’re at in your journey will be a deciding factor on the restraints or cuffs you should purchase.

Quickie Cuffs Super-Strong Medium Silicone Restraints

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“In general, less experienced players should start with restraint systems that are more flexible or pliable (such as fabric, bondage tape, or silicone easy cuffs), and are easy to take on and off,” Carlisle mentions. That’s why Quickie Cuffs’ Super-Strong Medium Silicone Restraints are a top choice for those looking for a top-notch sex restraint.
Because these are made from super-strong, flexible silicone, these cuffs are not just durable, but super comfortable to wear. They’re designed to be easy to use, without any fiddly buckles or straps to worry about. Stretch them over your wrists or ankles (if you’re feeling frisky) and you’re good to go for a sexy bedroom sesh. They also have a clever locking mechanism that can be quickly released if needed, making them a safe and reliable option for bondage play. 
In addition to their practical features, Quickie Cuffs Super-Strong Medium Silicone Restraints also have a sleek and sexy design that looks great in the bedroom. The black silicone material adds a touch of mystery and sophistication, and the lack of metal parts means they’re easy to get through TSA without any awkward questions. What more could you ask for? Those beginning their journey with the best handcuffs and sex restraints, look no further than a silicone pair like these Quickie Cuffs from Lovehoney to get started.

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BEGINNER OPTION

Lovehoney Oh! Silky Bondage Restraints

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Why It Stands Out: Not everyone interested in non-metal restraints will go for silicone above all other options. Because texture is huge in the world of BDSM, you’ll find lots of beginners vibing more toward silk than silicone. These don’t chafe as much as other textures, either.
Made For: These bondage restraints are perfect for any kind of person in their sex restraint journey, but offer a non-fussy way to get started in heat-of-the-moment fun.
Can You Get Out?: While these have the ability to effectively restrain arms or ankles for classic sex restraint fun, this option does not come with any need-to-learn locking system. Simply untie when you’re done playing.
Hot Take: Silk is simply one of the sexiest materials out there. The smooth and soft texture of silk against the skin can be incredibly arousing and pleasurable, even if you don’t have a silk-related kink. Who knows? Maybe you’ll leave your first experience using these as the texture’s number one fan.

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BEST TAPE

Tether Skin-Friendly Bondage Tape

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Why It Stands Out: Tape is a material those in the world of BDSM seem to forget about. Carlisle recommends a fun way to start using sex restraints is by purchasing bondage tape. “It sticks to itself without tearing out hair or harming skin, and can be fun to use when securing a person to something else, like a bedpost or chair,” they tell SPY.
Made For: This is a solid option for any restraint user, but specifically, Tether makes an excellent restraint for those just starting out due to how easy it is to use.
Can You Get Out?: Yes, you can quite easily. Tether will keep arms or ankles “tethered” for as long as you want, but getting out in a jiffy (if needed) is as easy as cutting tape.
Hot Take: Just keep a pair of safety scissors nearby for all of those “just in case” moments.

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INTERMEDIATE OPTION

DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Wrist Cuffs

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Why It Stands Out: A step up in the world of sex restraints can be found in a pair of leather handcuffs, which is why these DOMINIX cuffs are considered an intermediate option. “Padded leather cuffs with metal buckles are a standard item in any BDSM space, but they can be expensive and do require some specialized cleaning and care,” Carlisle mentions.
Made For: These are designed for folks that have already spent some time practicing with materials like silicone and silk. They’re ideal for metal-seekers that want the material without the chafe. Also, given Carlisle’s claims on cleanliness, users will have to put a little more work into keeping these cuffs ready for sex.
Can You Get Out?: Although these cuffs are designed to be secure and reliable during bondage play, they can also be removed easily with the included quick-release clips.
Hot Take: While you won’t be able to play cops and robbers just as well as you might with a full-metal set, these are a solid option to safely step up in the world of sex restraints.

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BEST HOGTIE

Bondage Boutique Soft Cuff Hogtie

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Why It Stands Out: Well, this is a hogtie. Wearers will be bound by both their wrists and ankles while wearing these. All other options before this simply hold one set or the other down. Essentially, these are a lot spicier (and more restrictive) than anything mentioned so far.
Made For: This hogtie is for total dom and sub play. Although they are not made with materials that will cause the sub pain, the position might be a little uncomfortable while wearing. Each cuff is made with a soft-to-the-touch material that will hold your sub in place without any added chafe.
Can You Get Out?: Not on your own, no. This hogtie uses velcros and straps to keep subs tied up in the hogtie position for as long as the dom wants.
Hot Take: These can actually be worn in the front or the back depending on how both partners want to keep the sub restrained. With two options available, folks can play around with new heightened sexual experiences each time these are worn.

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BEST UNDER-THE-BED

Under The Bed Restraint System

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Why It Stands Out: Like the hogtie, there’s something a little visually different about these restraints: they hook to the underside of the mattress for ultra-restrictive fun. While it works ideally for spread eagle, wearers can maneuver themselves in a number of different positions for an enticing new way to play each time these restraints are involved in sexual activity. 
Made For: While these are not uncomfortable to wear, they are very restrictive. Wearers will virtually be unable to move when these are on, essentially pinning them down to the bed without any way of getting out.
Can You Get Out?: No, not without help. The body will be stuck in whichever position chosen until someone unstraps the wearer.
Hot Take: This option keeps wearers pinned in a specific spot without mobility whatsoever. Not only will this set have your sub begging for more, but also begging to be released so that they can go to the bathroom. Tip: get these for 45% off when using code TAKE45 at checkout.

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EXPERT OPTION

VIPERTEK Professional Grade Handcuffs

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Why It Stands Out: Though we would normally not suggest purchasing sex restraints or handcuffs on Amazon, this is a superior pair from the enormous retailer we definitely recommend. These are quite literally police grade. Yeah, like, made for police officers. They aren’t necessarily designed for sex, but a quick read of most Amazon reviews will have one believing otherwise.
Made For: These are designed for folks that actually need to use handcuffs for their profession. While they might not specifically be made for sexual activity, a number of people use these for sex. That said, only experts should be using these.
Can You Get Out?: No. You will not be able to get out of these without a key. These are impeccably heavy-duty.
Hot Take: Essentially, these are the most legit handcuffs you can purchase on the internet for an affordable price. They have a double locking system that will keep any naughty sub in place for as long as a dom likes. That said, it’s important to be incredibly careful with these.

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HEAVIEST OPTION

Penny’s Secrets Ultra Heavy Handcuffs

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Why It Stands Out: Visually speaking, these are massive, weighing in at 11 lbs with a 2cm thick polished AISI 304 stainless steel design. Heavy metal lovers, gather around — and we’re not talking about the kind of people that like the music.
Made For: These surpass a desire for metal handcuffs. Because these will weigh someone down tremendously, weight play is also involved with these cuffs. Experts that know what they’re doing to the front of the line, please!
Can You Get Out?: Good luck.
Hot Take: These are the heaviest handcuffs you can purchase online. Try finding anything weighing more than these. We dare you.

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BEST FOR HANGING

The Stockroom Padded Suspension Cuffs

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Why It Stands Out: Why do these cuffs stand out? Well, because you won’t be able to stand up with two feet on the ground. These padded suspension cuffs are designed specifically for hanging your partner from the ceiling.
Made For: Experts. No way around it. If you are just getting into cuff and restraint play, don’t even bother.
Can You Get Out?: No. Wearers will be hanging from the ceiling. Like the others, wearers will not be able to get out without help.
Hot Take: Suspended play makes for tons of fun, but these can get incredibly dangerous. Make sure you know what you’re getting into.

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A Final Thought On Safety

We can’t express enough just how important it is to keep a sharp mind when using sex restraints and handcuffs. Here are just a few points to go forward with before getting in on the fun: